if we can identify them, then we can takes steps to overcome them.
In today's episode, I did some research and found 10 unhealthy thinking styles (and if you're like me, you've "been there - done that" and my thought is if we can identify them, then we can take steps to overcome them.
I had one this week. I'm moving soon, and for some reason, I was thinking, "Once I get back to living in a house I will be "Normal." This is should thinking. As in " Fifty-year-old people should be living in a house." We all have our own struggles, lifestyles, etc. Happiness is a choice and basing my happiness on what type of home I live in - is not
healthy. You can be happy in any kind of home - if you choose to be thankful for the roof over your head.
I'm down 2 lbs to 225. I lost 5 pounds in July.
1. Mental Filter: This is what some people call "putting blinders on." You don't see your accomplishments and often only see the things that didn't go your way. That's not accurate. You are a person who has accomplished things.
2. Jumping to Conclusions: You are predicting the future or mind reading. Both of those actions are rarely accurate.
3. Personalization: While accepting responsibility for your actions is healthy, when you blame yourself for everything you can spiral into a negative ball of guilt and regret.
4. Black and White Thinking: Everything is good or bad, left or right, happy or sad. Typically there is some gray area in there.
5. Catastrophising: THE SKY IS FALLING!. We make things out to be a HUGE problem, when if you do a little research, what you think is huge, might be insignificant.
6. Overgeneralizing: This is another example of operating without all the facts. You use information from the past to predict the future. This lessons your impact and assumes you are not capable of change. We know you are.
7. Shoulding and Musting: You are putting unreasonable demands on yourself (or others). You had set standards that you expect others as well as yourself. Here again, not all standards are bad. The key is having standards, based in reality based on all the facts.
8. Labeling: You label yourself or other people in a certain way. These labels come from your belief system. The more you use a label, the stronger they become. With this in mind, I like the label, "Weight loss champion."
9. Magnification and Minimization: You magnify other people, and minimize your accomplishments. Something I can sum up with one word, "Facebook." Your friend's lives are phenomenal while yours is awful. Comparison is the thief of joy. Don't forget about your positive traits and accomplishments.
10. Emotional Reasoning: How we feel is how we see things. You are seeing things through the filter of feelings which may color things negative because of how you are feeling now. You're tired, and find out you have to attend your partner's work party. You instantly think, "Oh no" because its the last thing you want to do right now. The good news is the party isn't right now. You are letting your current feelings color how you think about something that is in the future.
When we can start to see ourselves using these, we can open our minds and insights to make sure we acknowledge our accomplishments, our current situation with accurate data, and move forward with new convictions.
When you take a healthy step toward your goal, you are voting for the person you want to become.